Sounds complicated.......
abd far more then I could handle-
Good luck to ya~
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Ok, well now for the venting part. Last month my wife adn I were on the verge of devorice and I guess we still are. Our relationship has been rocky to say the least after our son was born. But a few weeks ago my wife who had in the past been an active bisexual told me she is now just a lesbian and has no intrest in guys. This hurts alot. But I will never stand in her way. She doesn't want us to seperate for Zane and I still love her and don't want to go. We decided that we will stay together and just date other folks. This may sound like a ideal situation for most and it could be. BUT I have been out of the dating ring for so long I have forgotten who gets tied up. [img]wink.gif[/img] .
So I have been trying a few on line dating sites cuz lets face it, The bar gig sucks. I can't even get one responce to my profile and am starting to get depressed about it. I id find an old friend of mine who I always had the idea liked me more than just a friend. Her bio says she is now bi and I just saw this morning she e-mailed my wife and asked HER out. SHISH, can't a guy catch a freaking break????
OK, Well I have vented enough for one morning. Sorry to depress you so early in the day.
Sounds complicated.......
abd far more then I could handle-
Good luck to ya~
holy shit...really
being bi seems to be the latest trend nowadays, not trying to make fun of your situation of course, man, but the sheer amount of lesbians and bisexual ladies I have encountered in the last two years is just ridiculous. Makes me wonder what the fuck is wrong nowadays. It seems like some sort of fancy fashion statement rather than a real sexual preference.
"I kissed my best friend and now I am a lesbian, tee hee" makes my fucking blood boil, but that belongs into my OWN rant about relationships [img]wink.gif[/img]
staying together + dating other people... you say you still love her, so that doesn't sound like a good idea to me. I hope it won't eat away at you and bug you like crazy.
that sucks guyver...i'm sorry, i know someone that went thru a similar sit and now they are back together
sorry to hear Guyver , I dated a bi girl once I never went further with it then although she wanted it, cause if I would fall in love with here this is exactly what I wonderd could happen, ( there was some other reason to but another time [img]wink.gif[/img] )
Good luck Guyver .. hope it works out for the best hmmm you can always make a sex change into a womman ? ( just trying to cherr ya up a bit ..sorry fi not the right tim )
i dunno, man, married and dating is a bad idea... so is staying together for the kid, imo. In the end, it's just gonna hurt the kid worse than if you split up... again, imo.
Honestly, get a divorce now man. Do it while the kid is young and then growing up with you two in different houses won't be weird, rather than you guys splitting when he's older.
Parents can still be loving, supportive and all that jazz, from two different homes. But as the kid get's older, the divorce will only get worse for you two and the kid.
Just my humble opinion, take it for what it's worth. [img]smile.gif[/img]
A suggestion, get a sex change and get into your wife's circle of friends. [img]wink.gif[/img]
O.k. jokes aside. [img]frown.gif[/img]
Dude, if you want to date other people then simply be yourself. Don't place yourself in a dating contest against your wife as you might risk to end up with the wrong person for the wrong reason.
Avoid searching for another woman becuase you feel you might have something to prove to your ego. If deep down you want to take your time to regain your confidence then do so first.
And if you do want someone new in your life, try to remember to approuch the woman as a friend, not like a quicky.
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<font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">What he said.Originally posted by Joranthalus:
i dunno, man, married and dating is a bad idea... so is staying together for the kid, imo. In the end, it's just gonna hurt the kid worse than if you split up... again, imo.
...well, first off...I am truly sorry. That kind of situation...well, I am not going to get into it. Let's just say that I think your wife, whatever her motives may or may not be...is a bad person. Let me say that this is not your fault. If she has these feelings genuinely, then I can assure you that she has at least suspected her nature since she was a teenager at the latest, its not new. She made a choice to live a different life, and in that extraordinarily short-sighted, self-serving, self-centered way humans have, she drug you and now a child into her deception. You are a victim, here.
That being said, I think you are going to have to end this. Staying together when the other person has chosen to express, for whatever reason, that they don't want you is not healthy. Ever. And staying together "for the children" is a joke. Believe me, man, the kid is going to know better than the buy the charade, and just how the hell do you think mommy and daddy can step out with other folks w/o it being noticed? Sorry, that sounded accusatory, and I do not intend it to be so. Suffice it to say, if you are unhappy (and you very clearly are), he will know. Kids have radar for this stuff. And if mommy and daddy aren't happy, no chance in hell will he be truly happy.
Finally, if you do choose to end it, you are going to have a long, bumpy road ahead of you. Divorce courts favor the female in this country, there is no getting past that. In order to settle things in a manner that will work best for you, I would suggest that you do not discuss it with your wife, just go file, and state the reason why. Honestly. That will cast the burden onto her for the disolution of the marriage. Cruel, but frankly, I for one don't have a lot of respect for her after what you just told us, anyway.
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